One of my previous blogs was about style and personality. To recap, I was saying how I think style can speak loudly and give a good insight of what someone is like. Some of us may say we don't have a certain style and that we are not attracted to just one style but for the most part we are to a degree. As an example of what I mean - you may not be attracted to the rapper-Gfunk style because you are not that style yourself. Or you may not be attracted to the pretty -preppy boy style either.
Now after thinking about this for a while I realized this all has to do with stereotypes. I personally do not find myself attracted to the pretty-preppy boy style for more than one reason. For one, I feel they are not the manly man I’m looking for. Two, I do not want a guy more into style and fashion than I am myself. Three, I have stereotyped this style to be arrogant and immature. Hate to say it, but all that is true of how I feel. Don’t get me wrong though, I can appreciate the beauty of said man and a good example is Justin Timerlake. I’m getting a little side tracked now as I dream, er think about hot JT. Back to my point - some of the old school dating games had a good concept when they put a screen between the eligible bachelors and the woman looking for love. This way she could hear what each guy had to say about themselves and certain situations, which gives you an idea of who they are and whether you'd be attracted to them or not.
In the end, after 50 years of marriage can you see your 80 year old husband wearing the collar up on his golf shirt, with ripped jeans and pumas? Don’t get me wrong, I personally think looks initiate the interest in the opposite sex – often we see someone we find attractive and we get to know them better to see if our personalities click.
Now to clarify, I do NOT think that the clothes you wear define you, but they can express a part of you. A close friend of mine shared an interesting quote with me not too long ago - "We do not attract what we want, but what we are". Now obviously, if you really read this, it applies to so much more than just style, but since that is the topic I thought about my own style in relation to this quote. I realized, I may not want a pretty preppy guy but I may attract one. Think of it this way, we all wake up in the morning and dress ourselves - well I hope so anyway at age 26 (there are a few exceptions to this rule, actually I can only think of one and that's if you are famous and have a personal shopper and stylist). You choose what you want to wear which in turn portrays a part of your own personality. And full circle we come back to the quote which says we attract what we are.
On a deeper level than just style think about this. If you portray a negative attitude when in a group setting do you really think a random hot stranger is going to want to approach you? Everyone should have confidence in who they are. Although clothes can show a little part of your personality they do not define someone. Be comfortable in your own skin - and others will be comfortable around you.
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